Adam Grant is a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, in this book he talks about two different attitudes : the one of giving and the other of taking (or being selfish and self-centered).

It appears that giving has its downsides, people could take advantage of it, but it builds mature relationships in the long-term perspective.
On the opposite, by taking the maximum in every situation, the outcome could be better in the short run but affects the long term.

 

 

powerless speech is actually more influential than powerful speech.

 

As burnout expert Christina Maslach and colleagues conclude, “there is now a consistent and strong body of evidence that a lack of social support is linked to burnout.”

 

Taylor’s neuroscience research reveals that when we feel stressed, the brain’s natural response is to release chemicals that drive us to bond.

 

The dating couples—especially the ones in love—operated like selfless givers. Their default approach was to empathize with their partners’ needs and give in right away, regardless of their own interests. Concern for their partners had the effect of “short-circuiting efforts to discover integrative solutions in favor of more accessible but less mutually satisfactory outcomes,” the researchers write, leading to a “‘kid gloves’ approach to problem solving.”

 

Focus attention and energy on making a difference in the lives of others, and success might follow as a by-product.